Difficulties Of Being A Sugar Baby After College

You love the feeling of being with someone more successful that you, someone who can show you the world. You may have even had a SD or two in college that gave you your first taste of luxury living and now your hooked. You have travelled to Beijing, Shanghai, Suzhou, Hangzhou, Hong Kong, Abuja, Lagos and the majority of the caribbean islands by now. You may have started your own small business since we are in the era of the internet and it's relatively assessable to do and that is ok because your ambitious. You were that college student with her head on but now you're over 25 and achieved your college degree/degrees, working the workforce and an occasional break to be spoiled and pampered by someone who may even be in a position to guide you to that next level in life seems like the perfect idea. So now your enthusiastic, back online and open to finding your perfect arrangement. 

After a few weeks of reading emails you finally realize that finding an arrangement that gives you the level of interest you initially had in college might be a tad bit different this time around. Finding someone who you "now" find interesting enough to actually want to put in the effort to pursue it past the initial inbox, email and phone call process of online dating comes far and in-between. Even when you do meet someone that's interesting and fit's the bill, there is no guarantee that location and personal preferences {i.e.. ethnicity, gender, style, compatibility etc} will allow you both to be a match.

It's so much harder for a sugar baby after college because now you have seen the world, tasted 5 star living and want more of it [sinister laugh input here :) ]. When a 18 year speaks of seeking the experience of a better lifestyle and mentorship it is very different than a 27 year old saying it because at 27 she's most likely not eating cup of noodles out of her dorm room anymore and is a bit more cultured since she spent a few semesters abroad.

[please excuse me as I rant]

No offense but at 27 years old, staying interested in someone who has only been as far as Las Vegas, woke up one day joined seeking arrangement because it popped up on the right hand side of his social media account only because he spent the night before googling escorts in his area, while going through some sort of mid-life crises after self-concluding that since women his own age find him impossible to deal with he can definitely just pay a younger woman who will. Here is the reality check, it is also absolutely impossible for said younger woman to deal with you as well, nothing has changed.

The definition of a Sugar Baby [According to SeekingArrangements.com] is: 

"Attractive people looking for the finer things in life. They appreciate exotic trips and gifts. Sugar Babies get to experience a luxurious lifestyle, and meet wealthy people on a regular basis" 

not:

"Attractive people looking to meet total strangers after only one email from a long winded profile about someone's long list of self absorbed demands, then meet said "stranger" at the local Italian Diner to hear more uninteresting facts about him then plan to hook up once a week for 200 bucks and an occasional gift card to amazon.com"

nor:

"Attractive young people with their lives together, looking to date men the same age with the same income who think sex is a subvention on their end of the arrangement because they themselves are young and hot". Yes you are hot and you work out everyday, we can tell by the 5 half naked pictures you posted but being 27 and single doesn't make her a young cougar dude. You would have to add 30+ years and botox for that arrangement to work.

[rant over]

I am not trying to insult anyone, so please forgive me if I have done so, it was not my intention. I am just merely trying to express my frustrations with the 5 or so discouraging inbox messages I get a week on this sugar site and others. 

Granted, I have meet a potential or two while recently exploring online sugar dating so I'm not at all discouraged, this article is just an expression of my recent difficulties as a Sugar Baby after college "

Hustling With A Plan

From day one, I've always known the things in life that I wanted and the things I needed to change. I may not have known how I was going to get it but I always know what would make me happy.

With every POT I met, I "Hustled With A Plan", having a plan of action is so much more important than the romantic and spoiling part of the relationship.

Making sure that you leave the relationship better than you came into it is an essential rule in any type of relationship [ IRL relationships, friendships etc..]

Whether it was school books, new clothes, a down payment on an apartment, new furniture... #whatever it was. I already knew what I needed from my new SD from day one. The goals after that just to get it, if a POT doesn't see financially capable of helping obtain these goals, I kept it moving.

Of course, I never started asking for a list of items at first but I did let him know where I currently was in my life and where I was trying to get to. This can scare some men away and that's ok. I rather spend my time talking to those who can afford to help me in my pursuits than waste days, weeks, months trying to get something out of someone who doesn't have it.

In the beginning, I always try to find out as much as possible about the POT

* What he does for a living
* Does he own any businesses and property
* His real name (first and last)
* Is he married, does he have kids
* Where does he travel
* Recreational activities

With a little research, all of theses questions can help you establish an idea of what he makes and what kind of disposable income he actually has for his fun activities "such as yourself" :)

For Example: 

If you meet a POT who owns a business but has with a wife, 3 kids still in school and you want him to put you through school, buy you a car etc ....
Honey it's not happening, he might have money but it won't be yours. He has the responsibility of raising three young kids with his wife. He does want another baby to take care of he just want fun and  might be able to give you a few dollars here and there but how does this help your "Plan Of Action"

This is what I mean when I say #HustleWithAPlan, if you know from the get-go what you are trying to accomplish you will know it this type of relationship works for you or not.

If you are a young girl just trying to get here phone bill paid or some pocket money this might work for you, but if you need a lot more...you might just have to say NO to this one. Why waste everyone's time.

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At this stage in my life I want to pay off my car a bit more quickly, I have a business that is still in it's start up stage and constantly needs new inventory and I want to buy a house (the condo is getting a bit to small with a man living in it). Although I'm in a relationship with a successful awesome guy, I'm not married and I also want to obtain all these things without changing my current relaxed lifestyle and schedule. Some women would say I should take on more work but those are also the same women that walk around looking #hella stressed and weighed down ....making in a month what an experienced SB can get in a day if she #HustlesWithAPlan.

So, I am currently open to the right sugar relationship, as long as it doesn't interfere with my current relationship I think I'll be ok with it but I won't enter one unless I know my POT is willing and able to actually provide what I need in the long run because I always #HustleWithAPlan

NOTE: 
I read this article today -----> How To: Juggling IRL Boyfriends and Sugar Daddies
Have any of you read it before? 
Let me know what you think, also if you ladies are in IRL relationship and have an SD....please fill me in on how it's working out for you. 

I'll keep you posted, let's see what February brings...

The "Sugar Bible" : Sugardaddy 101 by Leidra Lawson

    

The Sugar Baby Bible

So many sugar babies ask me how did I get started, what should they do?

It's so hard to explain to someone, how to go about finding the right sugar daddy without them knowing at least the basics for the game.  This book shows you the basics, from many different angles and just like any other aspect of life you have to invest in yourself in some way, shape or form. I'm sure if it's important to you, you will find $14.99 (for the amazon download) to invest in yourself.

Honestly, I can't stress enough that I wouldn't have made it through my earlier stages in life without this book,  I've read most of the sugar literature out there on the market but no one has put it as simple and as easy to interpret into my own life as Leidra Lawson did in " Sugar Daddy 101".

I have to give props where props are due. If you want to be in successful in the sugar game #getthisbook

I had the opportunity to speak with Leidra in the earlier stages of my SBhood and she really has such a wonderful, #real personality. I love it when a sister keeps it real. ( yes ladies, she's a sister)

** Leidra, If your reading this, FYI: I'm still awaiting on "Sugar Daddy 102", your killing me here **

It's 2016, It's Been 3 Years My Babies But I'm Back !!!

So much has changed in my life over the last 3 years, I met a wonderful dream guy who's only a year older than me. He makes over 100K annual,  loves the dirt I walk on, my family adores him and things are really good right now.

I'm at an amazing stage in my life at the age of 32.

With all my previous accomplishments, I probably looked like a perfect catch for this guy, when we met I was 30 years old, college educated, owned my own condo, car and already had a profitable business running but I always smile to myself and wonder "if he ONLY knew"... that the furniture that he sits on, the bed he sleeps on and the entire lifestyle that he is now  privileged to... was all bought for me courtesy of a Sugar Daddy.

I now live a pretty comfortable life, and if you have ever read my blog, you know that was not always the case.

I let him move in my condo over a year ago, with the responsibilities of paying my mortgage and car note. So on the first of the month he has my envelope ready. I also have a credit card that he pays for, plus the income that I make is all mine to do with as I please. Big difference from the hustle, but still a #hustle.

You would think that I would be content, but the saying is true "the more money you have, the more you do".

I'm now the proud owner of an international business with 2 locations and there is so much responsibility and expenses that come up every day. I would mind finding and SD again that could work with my situation, in order to get me to the next level of comfort.

I have all my days free now and I set my own schedule, it's just a thought for now, I will keep you posted.

I started a new Sugar Baby Facebook account, they are so much more of you babies online than before, I remember when they were just a handful of us. I do hope I can reconnect with all of the old girls if your still online #HitMeUp and if any of the new girls need any help feel free to reach out.

Muaaaaah, Until I post again my babies.

Long Awaited Update: Mountain Tops & Valleys Lows

It's been two long, hard years since I moved from the big city to South Florida. I know it's been a while since I updated my blog but things weren't like the used to be......

I Grew Up...

However, I did try to stay in touch with my favorite SB's through Facebook here and there...just to let you guys know I was still in the game and thinking about you.... my babies.

I am 30yrs old now and all though I have been very blessed...I must admit that it hasn't been easy. Building a career in a new state, dealing with frenemies and down right just trying to survive....It's been one hell of a journey...but I'm glad I did it. I've learned valuable life lessons, a new found appreciation for the simple things in life and most of all I've learned that not everyone is as blessed as I have been, everyone struggles, life isn't a fairytale, so NO ....not everyone ends up like "Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman". It's a tough world out here and although we all put on our happy face and head out into the world, what really counts is our peace of mind at the end of the day. I have met many new "POTs" as you ladies now call it.....but everyone has problems even the "Wealthy", nothing is as black & white as it seems, holding on to "you" in the progress is hard, remembering who you are, why your decided to be a SB in the first place is important because there is so many gray areas in the progress.

On the upside, I've made a very good SB friend here, I took her under my wing about a year ago and she doesn't know it yet but she does make the journey a bit easier knowing I have someone that struggles the way I do.

So, here is an unexpected update:
Mr. Blackcard  and I are going to vegas in jan.......

PAUSE.... I KNOW I SAID "MR. BLACKCARD"

Who remembers Mr. Blackcard?....

I can't believe it's been 5 years since I first met him and his two boys back in NYC...
Ladies recently with Mr. Blackcard back on the scene, I can honestly say I miss him and all the perks. I believe everything in life happens for a reason,  there is a saying that :

Only if you have been in the deepest valley, can you ever know how magnificent it is to be on the highest mountain.
~ Richard M. Nixon 

Well my dears, these last two and a half years of my life have been my deepest valleys, and I truly do know now how magnificent the mountain tops are, and with that said, I repeat; Mr. Blackcard and I are going to Vegas in January ....Tickets First Class Booked, Spa and Facial Booked. I am also going to a convention for my small business that I started earlier this year.......

how magnificent these mountain tops

Til next time my babies...muah!

**BLAST FROM THE PAST** "D" is back

For those of you who followed my blog over the years .... 

I hope you remember "D" .... 

Most of you loved him and some of you thought he would have been the one. 

For those of you that are new to my blog, this is like that "WTF" moment in your favorite soap opera when the last person you expect to show up, burst through the door.

We all know that I'm not 19 anymore, it's been over 10yrs since "D" and I met each other. I'm a bit more mature and confident in myself. Yet the idea of him back brought back all those insecurities of not being able to fit in his life. In the last 72hrs my life has gone from mundane to full blown ecstasy. The past couple years hasn't been reasy , I have had far more than my fair share of problems, disappointments, and stress.

So here is how it all started:

On thursday night, I laid there in bed browsing celebrity photos feeling a bit restless, tossing and turning. To my surprise, I got a emailing from "D" saying " Can I call you, I'm going to your island and I need your advice". Of course I said sure and gave him my number.  He called, we spoke for about 2hrs..we laugh, and laughed. "D" was a breathe of fresh air. Apparently he has been separated for about a year and a half now, from the russian chick his mom liked more than me. I thought that I would have enjoyed hearing that more than I actually did but I heard his bitterness. 

He was saddened over his failure. 

He told me he would be arriving in tampa on friday to donate furniture sitting in a condo there he was selling. He asked If I could spend a few days with him as he would be leaving to go abroad on tuesday. My first reaction was a hell no, I told him I had to work and couldn't just pick up and leave like that I am not a 21 yr old anymore. He also asked if I could meet him on my island in february, and I said no to that. I talked to my SB friend Camilla (some of you know her) and she thought I was nuts not to go. 

I came to work the next day and it just so happened that I had a conference in orlando on tuesday, and was off monday. So ladies guess what I did. .... I drove 4 1/2 hrs to Tampa to see him afterwork on sunday night (WTF).  

Long Story Short: He booked my ticket to the islands and hotel the next day :)

So "D" and I will have three days in the caribbean together ....... What to wear, What to wear!!!!! 

Introducing "Mr.Risk Management"

"Mr.Risk Management" lives right here in sunny Florida. We met on "AM" but added each other to linkin.com where we were able to see and verify our professional lives and connections.
Apparently he launched many successful start-ups and is still on the board of directors for few but his cash cow was his risk management company.

After work one night I met him at Bal Harbor for drinks before we committed to an 3+ hour dinner. Omg girls ....it was a breathe of fresh air as we sat on the balcony of the restaurant with city views. We talked all night about travel and my possible upcoming promotion which btw.... I GOT :) (just incase you missed my endless post about it....lol)

We had such a relaxing time that we decided to continue for dinner. He took me off the island to this quiet lil French restaurant .... The food was awesome especially being on a "I Just Moved To A New City" budget for what seen to be foreveeeeeeer . I honestly had a good time.

While he was away, we made south beach dinner plans for the night following him return. Unfortunately I had to cancel because I stayed late at work but surprising "Mr. Risk Management" drove almost an hour north to take me to lunch thevery next day...that definitely impressed me.

So Ladies, tomorrow I will be heading to south beach for champagne and dinner..... Wish me luck and I'll def keep my babies posted :)

I'm Back, What's Next?

Hello Ladies,

I know I've been a total hermit, but I won't lie to you....It's been hell.
Moving to a new city, leaving your main sugar daddy behind, loosing who you thought was your best friend and  trying to grow within your company all at the same time...is a lot for anyone to handle. But It's all working out. I've matured so much, I shock myself. After received my promotion @ work...I'm excited to return ...stronger and more confident. So many people  expected me to fail...but i'm a survivor!
Besides a generous Salary, Benefits and Bonuses allows me to be a bit more stable and less dependent on an SD....Now I can finally need to take this sugar game to the next level.

Here's and update:

Army-Thug,  goals was to become the largest drug dealer on this side of the east coast, he gave me a car when I moved down here and in return I allowed him to crash at my spot once he paid half. plus the sex was totally insane...lets call this my moment of insanity. Living with him was the worst experience ever... lets just leave it at that. He's currently in jail ** what was I thinking**

 Mr EMS. still text's me to this day but I  wish he wouldn't . I've reach out to him a few times and he did absolutely nothing to help me with my move or situation.

Mr. Blackcard, is still such a miserable old man.... 

Young London, Man I really need to stop trusting my feelings .... he's a weirdo

Honestly ladies, I am at a point in my life where I needed more from this SB life, I started to wonder if it was really for me....I will be 30 yrs old in a year and a few months..... Whats next?   


As I get older I need more than just financial assistance. I am ready for the next level? I'm mature enough for it. And I'm not desperate ... no rush SB/SD arrangements. I'm taking my time with this one.
I try dating my age group and after so many years in this lifestyle I can not adapt. I honestly am attracted to the older successful gentlemen. I need someone who needs me in there life as much as I need them in mine.


What's NEXT? I have no idea....but I promise you it will be bigger and better than It was before.


I'm not sure I'm ready for the "Anna Nicole Smith " situation but I def will consider "Naomi Campbells".

As always thank you all for following my blog, I appreciate your support. 

I'll keep you posted ;)

Here's to "New Beginings"

Hey everyone, I am so sorry I have been away from you all so long...

 I had some soul searching to do. ...Lots..

I am currently living in sunny "South Florida"....and loving it!!!!

It's so funny how you can live ...day in and day out and not feel alive. I'm starting to feel alive again.

I hibernated for months in NY... still seeing Mr. EMS and Mr. Blackcard but I felt empty....so empty.

 I needed a fresh start, a new beginning.

THIS IS MY NEW BEGINNING

What would any new beginning be without all of you ! You've followed me so far through this journey and to my readers old and new....I just wanted you all to know I appreciate you ;)

My last few months in New York were the worst few months of my life. I woke up most mornings feeling like I wanted to die, I couldn't breathe, tears ran down my chest like a faucet and standing still or at all was next to  impossible. Panic attacks the doctor calls it. ....Ambien, Xanex and Lexapro he prescribes me....

but even medicated I couldn't pretend anymore...I didn't want to...I wasn't able too.

I started taking more and more trips to visit a close friend of mine in Florida..She has the cute little family thing going on and I was happy there. So I decided to just up and move about an hour away from her

Far Enough For Privacy Of-course :)

Her brother, let's call him Army-Thug, gave me his hoopty to drive til he comes out of the army. I have a lot of love for him, he's calming.

New town, New Chapter.. Hope your as excited as I am to see what comes next!

As requested.. I have YOUR UPDATES!!!!!!!!!! :)

Army-Thug,  my bff's 26 year old brother ...I know it's a big no no but we created this bond over the years and it seems like he has the potential to be the one.... He came to visit me in NYC and I swear, one weekend with him brought me out of my depression completely. He's so young yet I feel completely safe and comfortable with him. He has such confidence in himself, and believes that he can make me happy... I trust him... like I've never trusted any man before... I don't want to hurt him.

Mr EMS kept saying "I Love You" every time we linked up, in hopes that I would say it back. He wanted to meet my friends, my family...although I had absolutely no interest in meeting his :( ..I know this sounds terrible but every night he came by I counted down the seconds til it was over. Til the night we were sipping on wine looking out my window at the beautiful brick-wall view provided by my then mice infested, apartment building and  he turned and asked " What I thought of retiring with him on ranch in Ohio?"
I was like WTF! ... I def didn't see that one coming. I could even kiss him after that.

 Mr. Blackcard and I never recovered our last trip to vegas, but he would still booked my tickets for me and I am super grateful that he gave me the down payment for my new place in Florida...but I have a feeling that's it for him. As sugarbabe's we know when it's over.
And it's Over......

Young London, I was introduced to him through my family.Sweet boy...26yrs old who is about to graduate with a degree in architecture. I have a feeling about him.... not sure what it is but you gotta love a man who thinks he can....huh

Well thats all I have for you thus far my babies.....Til next time..... muaaaah
WISH ME LUCK!!!!

Thinking of what's has/will become of me......

Thinking of what's become of me, why has this SB/SD lifestyle becomes so natural to me...

Will I ever get out? Do I even want out?

I've been pretty sucessful with this choice of lifestyle thus far, and I'm ready to take it to the next level.

Anxiety takes over me...because I live two lives; one as Dionne Davenport and the other use to be the "real me". Currently, I don't even know who the real me is anymore; I've become so involved with both side of me and have invested so much in both that now I feel stuck because I can't chose between the two. Which one should I be? I just always assumed one side would have taken over the other by now. I just can't fully let either go. Every once in a blue, I find a guy I can see myself married to but I've gotten so used to the stability that the SB lifestyle has given me, so I run back to dionne. Then on days i'm in vegas laying poolside with an overweight, annoying fuck older than my dad (aka Mr. Blackcard) rubbing his balls at every woman that walks by I say FML and go running back to my otherself.

Since age twelve my relationship with this concrete jungle has been bittersweet. As most Caribbean children whose families migrated to New York, my journey began in Brooklyn. However I detest the borough of Brooklyn; my memories of “BK” don’t consist of the boutiques in Brooklyn Heights, the tree lined streets of Fort Green, or the beautiful restaurants and harbor of Sheepshead Bay. Unfortunately, I am also not cool enough to claim the drug infested government housing of Marcy Projects or any of the other death traps most of hip-hop’s great talent such as Jay Z has struggled to rise above.


“My New York” first consisted of East Flatbush. Think of East Flatbush as the port authority for the Caribbean; its residents on a whole were and still are the holier than thou Bajans, curry smelling Trinidadians, iguana eating Guyanese, know it all Haitians and the ever fearless of them all, Jamaicans. I still remember the first place we called home, a 3rd floor condominium in a building belonging to the father of my new, self-absorbed stepfather. Although this home was modern in comparison to the Caribbean, I couldn’t grasp the reason for bars on the 3rd floor windows. Were Spiderman and his marvel buddies to invade us during the night to steal me away? I remember looking out the window of my bedroom one night thinking, wherever Spiderman wanted to take me had to be better than New York.

Soon after, I found the adaptation to life in New York pretty uninteresting. In New York, children suffered from bulling because they didn’t have the right materialistic items such as Jordan sneakers or Jas Sport knapsacks. Parents protested the use of prayer in the public school system. Female students talked about becoming the next big celebrity in order to show off the “rims” they were going to buy with their “paper” for the Cadillac’s that their “man” will give them because he’ll be impressed with the way “they put it on him.” At twelve year s old, I became familiar with words and phrases through my peers, words I never heard come out of a mother’s mouth even on her angriest of days. I assumed being a New Yorker meant being vulgar, materialistic, reckless, rebellious and free to do as you please.

Was this the reason we moved to New York? In my country, uniforms in schools were the only fashions a twelve year old knew; prayer was mandatory in the mornings and before lunch, trades were learned from the elementary level, and you were expected to work in the education, agriculture, medicine or tourism industry in order to become a contributing member of our country. That was just the way it was. I guess my mother wanted me to have the freedom and opportunity to do whatever I wanted, so I did just that from then on and I didn’t want to be a New Yorker. I return to my country of birth at least twice a year just to hold on to my culture and not lose track of what we stood for. At first it was to visit family I missed. Then it became a break I needed from school; now it’s a small apparel import hustle I’ve created while I’m there on vacation. On each visit back to what once was my home; I am perceived more and more as a foreigner.

I sometimes wonder, how come it was so easy for me to become a sugarbabe....why does it come so natural to me. Its as though in rebelling I became a New Yorker, a New York sugarbabe.Taking that initial embrace of its culture a bit too literal, when at the age of twenty-seven I awaken most days at noon, stumbling back into slumber around 4am and have at most 2-3 lonely  46-57yrs men at my beckon call. I don’t even remember conforming. It feels as though it happened over night. Being a New Yorker and living the “New York” way of life eventually lead to my constant state of insatiability and greed, amongst a few other personality disorders I dare not mention that define my very being. Surprisingly, my mother seems rather proud of my nothingness; she even brags of me being so carefree. I now choose to pursue a career that influences the bullies who may degrade that young child in school whose parents may have just moved here and can’t afford to buy her those now material items; Coach shoes and Longchamp bag as yet. To some, I may be the most superficial person they know, but to New York I’m right at home somewhere and this has become my culture, my comfort. I am a New Yorker, and this is “My New York”.

First Time Shopping with Mr. EMS....

Yesterday was my first shopping day with Mr. EMS. First thing first, my $1330 Dameir LV bag ( purchased by Mr. Mob in 2007) had an unfortunate accident last year which resulted in a $424.61 bill to repair it. Now my babies I have a strict rule against spending my own money so it's been sitting there waiting for pick up for a while :(... that was our first stop. :)

Especially after my SB in training Camilla Chamoun got he first LV bag last week. I was soooo jealous. 

Next on the list are clothes for my trip to Vegas with Mr. Blackcard, he has seen my whole closet by now and honestly speaking I think he might have purchased at least half of whats in there..with my SB friend going I have to look even hotter than she does...after all he is my SD.**big grin**

Down to SOHO we went, one of my favorite shopping neighborhoods.

Since he is still pretty new to me.....I still needed to feel out his shopping style so I know what stores to target..some guys are so picky about what they spend their money on. 

Test: I went into Sunglass Hut and tried a pair of Gucci's on and asked him how it looks and he said it looks like I was wearing a $300 pair of shades and then gave me a long winded speech about it....

OH BOY I thought....

I really hoped he didn't care my babies but sometimes thats how the cookie crumbles :/ 

 I knew I had to approach this from a different angle. 

Approach: I went into Top Shop, he was on my tail the whole way through looking at the prices of everything I picked up....I bought an outfit which came out to $120 which calmed his nerves, he actually said wow we're finished already, I smiled inside knowing then he was now comfortable. ** bigger grin**

From there we went into BEBE (one of my favorite non-designer stores btw) 

I had them set up a fitting room for me while we walked though the store he hardly realized what was going on.... I kept talking to him about many random topics. Then I told him to sit and I went to try on a few things. I modeled a few for him ... which he liked very much. then came out and went straight to the register and handed them my Clubcard. The bill was about $500 he looked puzzled for a bit...I just smiled and started looking at other things saying things like "OMG how cute is this one" of course the sales associates encourage me big time.

 Babies I have never seen an SD swipe his card so fast...lol

He wanted me out of there before I picked up more things.

I don't get the shopping mentality of men nor do I try, as Tim Gun would say I just "MAKE IT WORK" . After that I stopped off at the spa and got my bikini wax then went on my merry way to dinner with him. 

A very profitable day my babies ....total sugar = $10345.62.  < ha ha ! He sure acted like he was spending that amount.
Correction: Total Sugar: $1035.62

Mr. Finance "Broke" and Return of Mr. Investor

A few days ago, Mr. Finance texted and asked if I was free to see him. Of course I said "YES" I just saw more $$$ in my eye's....but that all crashed and burned when he continued to tell  me that he really wants to see me but I might have to wait until next weekend because he is short on the amount we agreed on. Which was then  followed by him hinting would be OK with me if he was a little short this time.

Homie don't play that!!!!

I honesty believe that was a test to see how desperate I was for the cash and to see if he could get away with it. I realized at that moment that  Mr. Finance is broke, he is some poor sap unhappy with is life, wants a little excitement but obviously can't afford it, that $500 he gave me the first day was probably a big stretch for him..... Poor Guy. But I'm allergic to being broke so I just nicely told him that it would be no problem if we saw each other next weekend when he has the full amount, and to stay in touch . C'mon business is business, image what the future holds if I let him short me on our second met....smh.
He hasn't done enough for a break,  I think I might have to replace him my babies  :(.

Mr. Investor for those of you that are new to my blog is a 32 year old emotionally 25yr old guy I met almost a year ago. We stay in touch here and there but lately he has been trying to resurface on the scene...commented on things such as me cheating on him if we were together. ....I love it! BTW he is 32 with the "black amex".... =)

Other than that things have been pretty calm and quiet on the SD front, Mr. EMS went away for a few days...a break much appreciate..he is a bit clingy but I do love his spoils.

Mr. Blackcard called today confirming my address for a package he is sending me :), i wonder what it is!! I'm not that excited because his gift giving skills are pretty whack but I will keep you babes updated. Especially next week when Mr. Blackcard is in town and when I'm off to Vegas the weekend after.

Til next time my babies....

Mr. EMS Update

After work today, Mr. EMS picked me up again...he is really into the whole "girlfriend/boyfriend" shit. It's OK as long as I get those $$$. We went to dinner at a local Italian restaurant ...picked up a bottle of wine and headed back to my place for the night where he then paid my $250 phone bill...I really need to stop calling the Caribbean  so much :(.

He is going away for a few  days and I was a little disappointed when he only gave me $200 cash. But after reviewing my "SD Income" excel spreadsheet 
(that's how I keep up on funds from my sd's.. babies, it helps me appreciate them during the down times...lol)  I realized he has given me $2,549 in the last 8 days (cash, bills & gifts) not including dinners ..so I can't really be that upset now can I ?

Mr. Finance text me yesterday, he wants to see me soon....so I'll probably see him while Mr.EMS is away. :)

Til next time my babies!!!

Quick Mr. Blackcard Update & it's an UP-date!!!!

Ladies , today Mr. Blackcard  booked 2 first class tickets for my SB friend and I to join him  in vegas next month.... It's going to be soooooo hot! I'm always sooooo alone on these trips.

I'm a little nervous about introducing an SB friend to my SD's but you never know until you try. 

Til Next Time my babies.

First day at new job & Mr. EMS Update

Hey babies, 

Today was my first day at the new job... Mr. EMS picked me up from work and surprised me by taking me to get a new flat-screen for my bedroom, DVD player and 6 months worth of my favorite bath products. Afterward we had another quiet night at my place...we picked up dinner and a bottle of wine.

While I took a shower he set up the equipment in my room then later he called the cable company..ordered and paid for a new box to be delivered. I am so loving this arrangement.
Total: $1367 :)

It feels so good to be back!!!

Til next time my babies.

New Sugar Daddy's, Facebook Page & Blog Look

Hey Babies, While meditating for the past few days and I decided I had to start fresh. I deleted my old FB page and created a brand new one. I've sent a few of you request, if i forgot anyone please forgive me and make sure to add me. During my escort research I added so many weirdo's and weird group pages...I had to start fresh.

Also, there has been a bit of negativity amongst the Sb's on FB since I added a few new sb's to my page and I'm not a fan of drama. Anywho..I hope you ladies like the new look of my blog.

Funds were so low and although Mr. Blackcard helps out it's not regular and I needed regular funds so I ventured back into the craigslist world for a bit and found two new daddies.

Mr. EMS 

Not attractive at all but owns an EMS training company " so he says". I allowed him to pick me up two blocks away from my place for our first meet. We went to at a cute little restaurant in dinner in little Italy, then we went to a movie. He talks sooooo much but I've learned it's always the ones that turn us off the most that do the most so I zoned in and out of the conversations. he actually offered to start the arrangement that night and I turned him down...I wasn't to sure about him at all. The next day I had an afternoon coffee date at the local coffee place in my neighborhood with Mr. Finance.

Mr. Finance

Also not attractive but we did hit it off right away, we started talking about school, life, travel, ways I can learn how to save a bit better...etc. I felt so comfortable with him that I invited him up to my place. He volunteered to stop at the ATM before he came up ...them asked me if $500 would be enough to leave me with today. I said sure and smiled because my rent was still behind. Mr. Blackcard only sent me 2/3 of the what I owed. When we got upstairs we talked some more ..he thought my apt was so cosy. About 20mins of him being there.. he proceeded to kiss me 'YUCK MUCH!! ...I  just kept thinking about what 'Belle from "The Secret Diary of a Call Girl" would do. So I sucked it up asked him if he would like to take care of that now 'hinting on the money". he gave me the mola.....I made a quick trip trip to the bathroom counted it and put it away. Babies ....Can you believe all he wanted was to go down on me, for me to tell him I love it and then hold him. I mad $500 in one hour without giving it up :). I'm keeping him. He wants to schedule a weekly thing between us...I'll keep you updated.

After Mr. Finance left, I checked my cell and had a missed call from Mr. EMS, he wanted to come and see me..He offered to bring over dinner, wine and something to help with my rent. I said what the hell, I'm always so cautious ...but I'm on a crunch to with the rent. When he arrived I let him up, When I opened the door he had a bouquet of roses ..I thought that was cute!!! Immediately he asked for my cable bills (which btw was off) and my electricity bill....He said "wanted to show me he was real because he sensed my doubt".  I'm like whatever,Ladies both bills came up to $430 he paid them online ...cable was back on in a jiffy. We sat had dinner , of course he talked my ears off, I think he just likes to hear himself speak. Anyway long story short, he was here for about four hours, went down one me, gave me a " head to toe" massage, we did the do for about 5mins..he talked some more then I told him I had to get up early so I needed to get some sleep. he got dressed and then came back over to me and handed me $500 cash.

Ladies , I had one great and profitable day don't you think?

Til next time my babies....

Mr.Blackcard Update and New SB book.

Mr. Blackcard came to town over the weekend, took me out to dinner for a 5 star b-day dinner, paid some of my bills and got me new Blackberry Bold in White...I love it!!!!

I saw this book on CNN a while back, I ordered it last week and it came in the mail today.

Seeking Arrangement: The Definitive Guide to Sugar Daddy 
and Mutually Beneficial Relationships

I'll let you babies know what I think and if it helps in my sugar game at all. 

Have any of you read it as yet?

TO ANONYMOUS:

In Response to my last post "Anonymous" said...

    Or you can become an escort! Oh wait, you already did that

TO ANONYMOUS: 

I am a business woman, I explore all options of making money.... may it be by the means of School, Work or Men. As for being an escort I did the research on the topic, and explored what type $$$ were actually in that type of work.... I knew nothing beyond being a sugar-babe and didn't want to work for an agency to find out so I built a website to gain feedback which obviously lead to adding many weirdos such as yourself to my very unreal FB account. My blog includes real events going on in my life, the women that have followed me for sometime know this and have evolved with me through the years.

If the person who left this comment on my last post is an ignorant guy who is obsessed with my FB account, I excuse them. But I really hope this person is not a fellow sb who thinks for one min that because you call yourself an SB and sleep with men for money that your much different that the "titled escort" which
OH wait!!! does the same shit.

NOTE TO MY BABIES:

I apologize if I confused any of you with the things you read or see on my FB account, I was interested in High-End escorting and needed know what type of men and money was involved and the best way to gain access to them.....I learned a lot I didn't know. 
I personally don't find anything wrong with high-end escorts..
more power to all the ladies who get $$$.

By appearing as an escort through twitter, fb and my site.... I have met and have gotten useful advice from a few wonderful and very nice women who are no different that you and I. Women who have been Sugar-babes before and took it to the next level. Women who make anywhere from $8000- $20,000 a month from just one or two men but no I haven't put the leg work in as yet, JUST THE RESEARCH. 

But hey you never know, If I meet some extraordinary guy through my new friends or my website who wants to upgrade my income dramatically.....  all of you will be the first ones to know ;). Right here on my blog, where the real juice has always been, Not FB.

Til next time my babies

The Good, The Bad...the Update.....

Hey all my babies, I know it's been a very long time since my last post but I do try to stay in touch with my FB babies as much as possible.

**Here are a few Updates**

English Muffin
Ladies I fell in love and absolutely lost my damn mind over this very hot 33 yr old lawyer from London who relocated to nyc for an extended assignment.  He was everything I ever dream of as "marriage material" and as an added bonus the SEX was awesome. We spent day in and day out with each other. He made me feel complete. But as most things that are to good to be true.... it all came crashing down when he failed the NYC bar and his company recalled him to London much to early.

I know, I know... :(

My heart was broken. Although it was such a short period of time...I thought I had found "the one"
he was Mr. Blackcard, "D" and Buddy all wrapped up in one and then some.
He will be taking the bar again at the end of this month...So I'll will def keep you all updated but until then I have to get back on my grind. I lost track of my SD's ...I was so wrapped up in "English Muffin.

That's a BIG NO, NO!!!

Because living on your own in NYC is so hard, you need all the help you can just to get survive. All that occupies my mind day in and day out are those $$$

With the economy the way it is, I fell way behind on my bills.... I've been to depressed for words. 

Up until yesterday, I felt as if I were about to loose everything I worked so hard to get.

YEAH EVERYTHING!!!!

But, lets just say I have a new appreciation for Mr. Blackcard.  After 4 months of ignoring him because he annoyed the shit out of me on the last Vegas trip..I was still able to called him up... explain my  financial situation and have him pay my rental company 2 months back rent for me.

This doesn't totally take me out of the $5178.00 hole I buried myself in but it def helps so......

Can we say Amen!!!! because he saved my ass.

With all these men in my life, he turned out to be the only one I could count on. All I got were false promises and "damn, what you gonna do?" from these broke ass men out there. Ladies I will be starting from scratch with my SD's, I'm not keeping any man around that isn't a direct benifit to my comfort and survival. I have matured so much living on my own, it's only right I start to mature my SD's.

I've came to close the to lose it all.

Quick Updates ~The Up's and Down's Of The Daddies In My World

Hey Ladies, Thanx for all the FB connects, been quite busy with a little venture of my own that Mr. Blackcard is currently funding, and trying getting my apartment together.... so I haven't been updating as much.

Here are a few Quick Updates my babies,

Mr. Blackcard ~ came to NYC for the weekend, we went furniture shopping for my entire apartment....I'm soooo happy. :), and he dropped a few hints that I might be getting my "Boob Job "** pretty soon. **

Mr. Investor ~ he is only thirty-two, and in "guy world" that means he is emotionally 25 and I have decided to treat him as such. I have fun with him, where it may go I have no idea but I am having a blast finding out.

Mr. Mob ~I believe is totally broke now, he has been by to see my place twice and saw that it was empty yet hasn't offered to help with anything, Other than painting it himself

( ahmmm, I think NOT!!!) .

Any brief thought of every rekindling anything with him , has totally evaporated.

"D"~ I'm so sick of hooking up with him on and off, I don't know how to tell him that this needs to stop. After reevaluating and comparing all the men in my life, "D" doesn't really do anything for me other than hang out and hello!!.... he is married....what am I doing with this man.
"D" and I have an emotional attachment so it's hard to say no.....
But he has to step up or step off, honestly unfortunately or fortunately I think I prefer him to step off.

Mr. Brown ~ and I had lunch together the other day, and he said he is still interested in pursuing a relationship with me, He's so unreliable, but there is just something about him that keeps my curiosity puuur-ing ...Lets see where that goes.

Well Ladies that's my update, Til next time......